Imagine power. Imagine God. Genesis chapter 1 & 2, God created the heavens and the earth. The Bible says that the earth was formless and empty. Apart from the Spirit of God which was hovering over the waters the only other thing was darkness. So God decides (He is God) to allow, to grant, to permit or as the Bible says “to let” there be several things on earth including light, the sky, the dry land, sun, moon, sea creatures, birds, land animals and of course, man. All these he does in 6 days and it’s recorded that He said it was “very good” (Ch. 1:31). One beautiful thing we must note here is that when God made man, He made him in His image and after His likeness to rule over all creation and to fill all the earth. In chapter 2 we see God putting man in a garden He had planted and gave him the all famous instruction, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die” (Gen 2:17 NIV).
Something excites me at this point: God looked and took note of man’s loneness and said that it is not good for him to be alone, and to quote this part, “I will make a helper suitable for him.” But before making this suitable helper for man, God had a small assignment for Adam. He had to name all the beasts of the field and the birds of the air. Thinking quickly, all the animals passing in front of Adam and he there saying, “elephant, eagle, tilapia, butterfly, snake (he dint see this coming), whale, lion, buffalo, cat, dog, hen, tick, tse tse fly, mosquito…phew! Am already tired! But the Bible clearly records that Adam named all of them and only then was he caused to sleep deeply (probably to take a rest from the tough job and meditate) and by the time he got up, alas! He dint even wait for any instruction from God, it was clear! “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh…” Verse 24 of chapter 2 says “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.”
Ever since I got to know that there are major differences between boys and girls, the issues that at some point in life a boy having grown enough will need to have a girl also grown enough and the two would live in a house together, the perfect example being mum and dad. All of us must have at a point asked our parents or teachers, “Where do children come from?” Our innocence then would not have allowed us to know things that we needed not know then. But as it is, things are different now. Thank God for them who have come to know Christ for our way of going through this different from others (read, who have not known Christ) and relationships is one area we cannot avoid in our lives.
Allow me to digress a little for purposes of bringing you to my understanding. God is sovereign, we all agree that. The reason why we worship Him is because He made us to do so and actually laid down instructions on how it should be done. It’s all in the Bible. He is God; we are in His world, the earth He created. We don’t pay allegiance to ourselves or to other beings because neither we nor these beings brought us into the world, it was God, and He knows why. So as we live we ought to know, our lives are not our own, we can’t change our being and therefore we turn unto God, our maker and perfector. Everything must always boil down to the amount of godliness in it before we can put our minds and energies to it!
If am correct to use Adam as an SI unit to finding a life partner, this is the simple path:
Created – placed correctly – instructed in God’s way – work for God – get your partner.
This is my wisdom, but it is consistent with the scripture, isn’t it? Adam was created, placed in the garden of Aden, instructed on what he could eat and what he could not, did the assignment and finally got Eve. This takes time. I must say that the Bible is a summary and that’s why John says in John 20:30 that the works of Jesus written thereof are just so that we believe that He is the son of God and that by believing Him we may have eternal life and in John 21:25 the Bible says were all the works to be written, the whole world would not have room for the books that would be written. Imagine that! That’s why we must seek God to know how a scripture is relevant in our context.
It is a fact that we are here, we are already created and God has placed us in different places on earth, different continents, countries and even counties. Acts 17:26, God determined the times for us and the exact places where we would live. So you are not here by mistake! The third part on being instructed in God’s way is where we find difficulty to go through. Mainly because of “weakness of the flesh” but God has promised that tough times will meet us in life. We therefore must continually “beat our own bodies till Christ is formed in us”. Christ is the way the life and the truth, the word of God is the truth and is God’s instruction upon which we must base our living. One of the important instructions here in is in John 3:7 and the Bible records, “You must be born again.” Once we have received and heeded the instructions of God, we now go on to really work for Him. Working should actually start the minute you have grown conscious of His sovereignty and you get the instructions as you continue working. We love to call God’s work “ministry” it is allowed.
As we get into the final stage of the path of finding a life partner, we must never neglect the place of God’s will, His good, pleasing and perfect will. Because we live in world and a time when it is the dream of a majority among us have placed marriage as a stage we desire to pass through as we live. Truth is, in God’s view it is not always so. That’s why Paul said to the Corinthians in 1 Corinthians 7 that it’s not good for a man to marry (v.1), but if you do marry, you have not sinned… (v.28). this is why it is fundamental that we know God’s will concerning this matter far above anything else. (v.32-33) says that an unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs but a married man is concerned about their wife’s affairs. In God’s will things may not always work out the way we want – but it is His world, we are His creation.
It is in God’s will that we should get into a relationship, get out of one or never go that way at all. I must say here that this does not apply only to relationships but also to other areas of life. Remember, if you are mindful of the will of God, you have an OBLIGATION to obey, if you are not, then you have a CHOICE. Imagine that! May God help us. Amen.